August 15, 2020,
Understanding when contentment is a curse and not a blessing is extremely tricky and challenging.
Should you be content to stay in your small home town around loving family and friends or should you pursue a high risk dream and move to a large city where there are greater opportunities for your cause but you will be a stranger in paradise?
You are working hard to purchase a home and you are waiting to have children before you do.
Your biological clock is ticking. Should you go ahead and have the child and live in an apartment which means one spouse becomes the bread winner while the other works part time or not at all to be with the baby?
“You must take action now that will move you towards your goals. Develop a sense of urgency in your life.”…H. Jackson Brown, Jr.
You have a job that you love but it pays just enough to get by with little savings. An opportunity for a higher paying job opens up in a factory. It will pay a lot more but the work will be monotonous. Should you be content? And for how long?
There are quite a few more scenarios.
When is being content wise and spiritual or an excuse not to grow, progress and seize opportunities while the window is still open?
So much of it depends upon if you are willing to take risks and more important if there is another party involved who sees you as procrastinating and not being ambitious.
In our personal experience we have learned the hard way that so much of life is about seizing the moments while the window is open. At the time it may make you are very uncomfortable but we have never regretted taking risks and hurling ourselves through the closing window as opposed to waiting and waiting and waiting and waiting for the perfect time, which of course never comes.
Life passes us by.
Then we deeply regret it.
We turn to film for some insight.
Booksmart is a 2019 American coming-of-age comedy film directed by Olivia Wilde (in her feature directorial debut), from a screenplay by Emily Halpern, Sarah Haskins, Susanna Fogel, and Katie Silberman.
It stars Beanie Feldstein and Kaitlyn Dever as two graduating high school girls who set out to finally break the rules and party on their last day of classes.
The film had its world premiere at South by Southwest on March 10, 2019, and was theatrically released by United Artists Releasing in the United States on May 24, 2019, to acclaim from critics and grossed over $24 million.
For her performance, Ms. Feldstein was nominated for Best Actress – Comedy or Musical at the 77th Golden Globe Awards.
Though we are generally not big on comedies, the film Booksmart appears to yield a very important lesson that speaks to our discussion today.
You are young and, make no mistake about it, you will never ever be young again. Should you spend your teen years having a great time or should you hunker down, focus on the books and your grades so you can get into a great college?
Ideally you would do both but it often doesn’t work out that way.
Typically you have to choose. Finding a nice balance is extremely hard.
Here is the storyline.
Amy and Molly are two high school seniors who have been best friends since childhood, but are considered pretentious by their peers. Amy has been out for two years and has a crush on a girl named Ryan; Molly urges Amy to attempt to forge a relationship with her before they graduate.
On the eve of their high school graduation, Molly overhears classmates talking about her in the bathroom. She confronts them and tells them she got into Yale, but they reveal that despite partying they too got into prestigious colleges.
Ouch. Double ouch.
Stunned, a panicking Molly rages while all her classmates celebrate the end of their final year.
Molly angrily tells Amy they should have enjoyed their time in high school more.
Point taken. Perhaps a little too late.
The master reviewers at rogerebert.com share some incredible insight, “In “Booksmart,” girls just want to have fun. Put aside the pressure to succeed or live up to strict ideals and focus on what’s important: our friends. “Don’t make the same mistake I made,” warns the teens’ favorite teacher, Miss Fine (Jessica Williams), and that statement feels like a warning for the audience, too. Focusing so much on work and success has pushed generations of women to burn out. Perhaps “Booksmart” is trying to teach the next graduating class that there’s nothing wrong with balancing all that hard work with some party time.”
We agree. Based upon real life experiences.
Life is so much about the moments. About the right now.
Especially when you are young.
Life can be so magical when you are young. From dating to enjoying things for the first time and being so open to new ideas and experiences while you are still very healthy.
We love these lyrics to the song Believe Me Natalie by the talented group, the Killers.
“ Believe me, Natalie, listen, Natalie
This is your last chance to find a go-go dance to disco now
Please believe me, Natalie, listen, Natalie
This is your last chance to find a go-go dance to disco now
Forget what they said in Soho, leave the “Oh, no”s out
And believe me, Natalie, listen, Natalie
This is your last chance…”
We’ve often heard it said that travel is for the young.
We agree with that too.
Preparing for the future is important to all of us, no matter what stage of life you are at. Having said that, it is critical not to let the moments that you can embrace and enjoy life not pass you by.
Take a deep breath and thing about that.
Where are you at in your life right now?
What should you be doing right now that you probably won’t be able to do, say, 10 years later?
Who would you love to be with right now that you have been procrastinating about? There is an expiration date you know.
Keep thinking about the right now.
Tomorrow will be here much sooner than you think.
Yesterday will never come again.
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