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September 1, 2024,
Lingering, it is something most of us dread.
We can put it off.
Try not to think about it.
Surmise we won’t do it.
But it won’t go away.
Try and understand this. The conversation you need to have, will not go away. You can do it on your terms and address it with well thought out talking points and diplomacy or you can get caught off guard and wait for an explosion.
The causes that lead up to that much needed conversation range from numerous to endless.
The strained relationship.
The important life transition you have been in denial about.
The health issue that is becoming increasingly serious.
Owning up to an important transgression.
We’re certain you can come up with more.
The informative team at psychologytoday.com adds, “Conflict, disagreement, tangled beliefs and emotions—these are some of the most common ingredients in a difficult conversation.”
A conversation that we most likely would like to avoid.
We’d like to turn to film for examples that were well-written, when the people involved had to address difficult situations.
In Treatment is an American drama television series for HBO, produced and developed by Rodrigo Garcia, based on the Israeli series BeTipul, created by Hagai Levi, Ori Sivan and Nir Bergman.
The series is about a psychotherapist, 50-something Paul Weston, and his weekly sessions with patients, as well as those with his own therapist at the end of the week.
What we loved about the series, was how it vastly evolved over time.
In the first installment, we really admired Paul’s skillsets and how he worked through his patient’s hidden and complex issues, unearthed them and help solve the problem in unique and believable ways.
He was often challenged and emotionally attacked but exercised great self-control and stayed focused on his job and helped them anyway.
Then came his turn to be a patient.
We loved how the series showed Paul’s deep imperfections and how the therapists that he worked with were not intimidated by him and his reputation, especially Adele, and helped him see what painful future he should pursue.
It was a tough conversation that probably resided in Paul’s subconscious but one he appeared to suppress. It was time for a transition at late middle age, which was extremely painful.
But, well done.
Typically an important time to have these conversations on life’s pathway is when you are young. Why? Because, painful though it may be, it can help you chart a course that will make your life so much better than if you didn’t.
In high school, are you taking the proper steps to get you into the best college for you? How will it be paid for? Hopefully, not by taking out a lot of loans. What can you do to help and improve your situation? Can you raise your grades? Are there certain people, once friends, due to destructive behavior, you need to cut ties with?
Not an easy conversation to have.
Time to move up the timeline.
This at times can be a really tough one.
Are you in the right job for your current and as important, future situation?
In today’s world, depending upon who you are married to, one of the toughest conversations to have will one of, you get a great job offer that will force you to move to another city. It is a tremendous opportunity but what will it do to your relationship? Not taking the job may not be a good solution either.
One way or another, you need to talk about it.
Even if that is not an issue, what about your current job. By staying in it, are you enhancing or undermining your future? Delaying that internal conversation may place you in a position where life will pass you by. The opportunities you had when you were younger may not be there when you are older. We have some mature ones in our circle who experienced that personally.
When their windows of opportunity closed, they were stuck in an employment situation they hated.
It is vital that you have this conversation early.
With this conversation in mind, time to trek over to the book store. We think you might benefit from this entry.
Getting Unstuck: A Guide to Discovering Your Next Career Path Paperback – December 21, 2009
By Timothy Butler (Author)
“You will experience psychological impasse many times in your life. During these times, you have the sensation that you’re stuck or paralyzed. You’re convinced that something must change, whether in your work or personal life. Though this feeling is normal, you need to move beyond it. Failure to get unstuck” can put your career and personal life as well as the healthy functioning of your team or organization at risk.
In Getting Unstuck, business psychologist and researcher Timothy Butler offers strategies for moving beyond a career or personal-life impasse by recognizing the state of impasse, awakening your imagination, recognizing patterns of meaning in your life, and taking action for change.
Drawing on a wealth of stories about individuals who have successfully transitioned out of impasses, Getting Unstuck provides a practical, authoritative road map for moving past your immediate impasse and defining a meaningful path forward.”
Sounds enlightening.
At times the tough conversation revolves around family team and friends, especially if one of them has a substance abuse problem.
This was handled painfully well in the television series, The OC.
The O.C. is an American teen drama television series created by Josh Schwartz that originally aired on the Fox network in the United States from August 5, 2003, to February 22, 2007, with a total of four seasons consisting of 92 episodes.
The series title, “O.C.”, is an initialism of Orange County, the location in Southern California in which the series is set.
The series centers on Ryan Atwood, a troubled and gifted young man from a broken home who is adopted by the wealthy and philanthropic Sandy and Kirsten Cohen. Ryan and his adoptive brother Seth, a socially awkward, quick-witted teenager, deal with life as outsiders in the high-class world of Newport Beach.
Which brings us to mom Kirsten.
Throughout the series, she was the pillar of the family. She came from wealth, ran a successful business and was the voice of mature wisdom.
Then she slowly developed a drinking problem.
At certain points in time, her family could see it but were too afraid to have that uncomfortable conversation.
Then her behavior began to reach dangerous breaking points.
They finally decided to have an intervention. While it lasts: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f6l12-YAThc
As you can see, they had the conversation they, as a family, needed to have.
As a result?
It saved her life.
We will all face intersections in our life where we need to have the conversation we have been avoiding.
Think through it, but have it anyway.
It will be life changing.
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