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February 16, 2024,
I don’t care what Chase thinks.
Says his girlfriend who is flirting with a very handsome guy.
I don’t care what your family thinks.
Says the husband, who in his wife’s eyes, is a financial underachiever.
I don’t care what the public thinks. It’s just us guys in the locker room.
Says the quarterback who threw two interceptions and has a 1-8 playoff record.
In all of the above scenarios, do you believe them? That they don’t care?
And really, how much should they care?
It depends on the situation, including what they do for a living. If you are Social Media Influencer, you absolutely should care what the public thinks.
Your advertisers sure do.
Isn’t it the age old question in life, which centers on, what is more important? What others think about us or what we think about ourselves?
It is not an easy question to answer.
We remember one famous comedian who refused to lose weight because he felt that audiences loved him because he was the funny fat guy. He died an early death.
Wouldn’t you agree that wanting others to like you so much is a testament to how much you need validation?
We sense this need has been happening since the beginning of time.
It certainly happened early in the movies.
The Star is a 1952 American drama film directed by Stuart Heisler and starring Bette Davis, Sterling Hayden and Natalie Wood.
The plot tells the story of an aging, washed-up actress who is desperate to restart her career.
Of interest, even though the film was a critical and commercial failure, Bette Davis received an Academy Award nomination for Best Actress.
Here is the storyline.
Oscar-winning star Margaret “Maggie” Elliot (Bette Davis) is a poor actress struggling to accept her new, non-wealthy reality. She is in denial, and confident she somehow can re-launch her career to its earlier brilliance. After suffering another big disappointment while vainly striving to get one good role, she gets drunk, gets arrested for DUI, and spends a night in jail.
She takes a screen test for a supporting role, believing that if she plays that character as a sexy younger woman, rather than the middle-aged frump she is seen as by the studio, she might be able to win the more coveted lead role. How did things turn out?
It does not work.
Now, it is time for a mirror.
At a Hollywood party thrown by her agent, she is offered a role in a new film about a fallen star who can’t face the fact that it’s all over.
This new script is dedicated to washed-up actors and actresses who are obsessed by their former glory, by what they used to look like, what kind of an impression they’d make to stay on top, and how they behaved; demanding, bribing and power-hungry.
It would be a story about those who can’t look down and can’t accept that their moment of glory is over and that the world has passed them by. Hearing the pitch delivered right to her face, and that she’d be the perfect actress to play the role, seems to have finally helped Margaret realize the cold truth about her future.
Very revealing movie.
Let’s move up to more modern times.
This one is an absolute gem.
Time Out is a 2001 French drama film directed by Laurent Cantet and starring Aurélien Recoing and Karin Viard.
The film on one of Cantet’s favorite subjects: a man’s relationship with his job.
Time Out received considerable attention internationally and was shown at the Venice Film Festival and Toronto International Film Festival. It was one of the independent films to be featured at the New York Film Festival.
Here is the penetrating storyline.
The film tells the story of Vincent, a middle-aged man who is fired after having spent more than 11 years working for a prestigious consulting firm.
Unable to admit to his family that he has been fired, the unemployed former executive continues to pretend he is going to the office every day. In reality, Vincent spends his time aimlessly driving the highways of France and Switzerland, reading newspapers, or sleeping in his car.
How long can this last?
As time progresses, Vincent invents more and more elaborate lies, throwing himself into a vicious spiral of deceit. To sustain his bourgeois lifestyle, Vincent sets up a Ponzi scheme and is eventually enlisted into smuggling by career thief Jean-Michel.
Vincent is fortunate to have someone who loves him.
Murielle, Vincent’s wife, after discovering her husband’s “life of lies” attempts to bring him back into the realm of reality.
Many wives, if they found out you lost your job, you are on borrowed time before they leave you.
You better believe many husbands are extremely concerned about what their wives think about them.
The respected team at psychologytoday.com has this to say on the subject, “If you believe that you shouldn’t care about what others think of you, then the bad news is that you are wrong—no one likes being wrong. But the good news is that your concerns are valid. They are part of being human and show up in innumerable ways.”
Understood.
From our point of view, no matter how strong a person thinks they are, virtually all of us care what others think about us.
Why do so many of us go to high school reunions?
It comes down to balance and, in all fairness, situations and occupations.
Movies stars, Influencers, NFL quarterbacks and the like should absolutely care what others think about them.
Where we get off the train is when a person begins to change who they are, purchase things they cannot afford and present a false public face, to influence what others think about them.
Then we sense it is going too far.
One of the most important lessons in life is trying to find a balance.
Having said that, caring what others think about us is simply part of human nature.
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