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Desperately needing her, she’s always going to show up big.
Able to make it on your own, she shows up anyway for support.
Sometimes even a team of them make the journey.
There is no more of a unique long term beneficial relationship in the world than a Best Female Friend.
Everyone should have at least one. A community of them would be better.
Yes, including males too.
Harriet Lerner PH.D. speaks to this at the respected publication Psychology Today, “Each friend contributes something unique in the way of wisdom, support, and just plain good times. Having a community of friends will help you to not overreact to the limitations of any one friend. When we depend on one person to meet all of our needs, that person can’t help but disappoint us.”
This was really exemplified when Femcompetitor Magazine showed up on a warm San Jose day in an even warmer studio to shoot video with Mona Wales, Ingrid Mouth and Andre Shakti.
Super Cute Ingrid
They were such good female buds who really liked each other and that was very evident, yet when it was time to wrestle, they really went at it.
A celluloid gem that is one super fun, super fine example of female best friends gong all the way for one another is Romy and Michele’s High School Reunion.
IMBd.com loved it too. “Two dense, inseparable friends hit the road for their 10-year high school reunion and concoct an elaborate lie about their lives in order to impress their classmates.
Ten years after their high school graduation, Romy (Mira Sorvino) and Michele (Lisa Kudrow) haven’t exactly accomplished everything that they set out to do. Despite their strong friendship, their personal and professional lives are still lacking. When they hear of their upcoming high school reunion, they take it as an opportunity to show their classmates how much they’ve changed — first by trying to reform themselves, then by creating a lie that eventually spins out of control.”
If you haven’t seen the film, you should. It was so much fun.
If you ever wondered about not going to your high school reunion, you are missing out.
We didn’t miss out watching Mona wrestle Andre and Ingrid battle Andre.
The match of the day was shot by another producer where Mona was the favorite, even coached Ingrid who was apparently a fast learner who turned the tables on sexy blonde Mona and slowly and erotically completely dominated Mona in fully competitive action.
“Love is friendship that has caught fire. It is quiet understanding, mutual confidence, sharing and forgiving. It is loyalty through good and bad times. It settles for less than perfection and makes allowances for human weaknesses.”…Ann Landers
Hey, what are best female friends for?
Your life experiences are probably in agreement but for emphasize we would like to turn our attention to a knowing female writer who further enlightens on this subject with her own personal experience.
The Beauty of the Female Bond
I recently witnessed the dissolution of a friendship between two women who had been extremely close. It was interesting to see the two diverse paths each decided to take in regards to the healing of this tragic event. The one woman chose to do everything in her power to create havoc in the life of the other. She used vengeful tactics to express her anger and hurt, which included speaking badly of her former friend in their tight knit community. In the end, this behavior backfired on her. The second woman took a very different approach. It started with forgiveness. She reached out to the other woman, trying to mend the misunderstanding. When that didn’t work, she turned to the network of other women in her life, letting them swaddle her with their love and support. It was beautiful to witness such companionship amongst women and to see the bonds tighten because of honesty and humility.
Female friendships can be complex. When we are young, we envy our friends, we covet their possessions and sometimes, even their boyfriends. We aren’t always taught the importance of being happy for one another so when we reach adulthood, these intricate insecurities travel with us. I remember when I was in my early twenties and my best friend had it all, or so I thought. She had a dream job working for a network television company and she had boyfriend after boyfriend while I couldn’t even get a date. In hindsight, I know I should have been happy for her, but I wasn’t. She possessed all the things I thought I wanted in my life and I was jealous. I couldn’t find it in my heart to support her, and I was always putting her down, mirroring my own lack of confidence onto her. In the end, I believe this led to the disintegration of our friendship. It was a difficult life lesson for me since deep down, I loved her very much and was grief stricken over this loss. After that, I decided to change my rapport with women.
Throughout history, women have bonded together during difficult times. When the men were off to war, the wives and widows turned to each other for a sense of community and family. Scarlet O’Haras were a rarity. For the most part, the bond of female friendships was resilient, and this was prevalent in all cultures around the world. So then, how did we become our own worst enemies?
We live in a culture that glamorizes negative relations between women. Reality shows profit from promoting competition and conflict, bringing out the ugliness inside of the participants. We even have the gall to call these people celebrities, as though we should celebrate this type of behavior.
A study at the University of Michigan focused on the importance of female friendships. In a news release, Stephanie Brown, the lead author of the paper found that “Most of the hormones involved in bonding and helping behavior lead to reductions in stress and anxiety.” During a study at UCLA, Dr. Laura Cousino Klein, now at Penn State University discovered that during times of stress, men tend to go into “fight or flight” mode. For women, when the hormone, oxytocin (the love hormone) is released, they tend to gather with other women instead. By doing this, more oxytocin is released and acts as a calming agent. Our relationships with other women in turn, lower our blood pressure and cholesterol. “There’s no doubt that friends are helping us live longer,” Dr. Klein states.
Today, I am surrounded by beautiful, smart, successful women. Instead of envying all they have, I take so much pleasure in watching them grow, watching them succeed, seeing them in loving relationships. I’m always there to nurture them when their hearts are in need of healing, and I never find pleasure from in their failings. I love that I can partake in their happiness and especially, be a cause for it at times. I can say this about every woman who is an important part of my life, and judging by the support they give me in return, I’m sure they can say the same about me too. It took a lot of growth on my part to reach this point, but now that I have, my life is more fulfilling than ever. Yes, my friends are good for my health, and I anticipate a long, happy lifetime of joy with them.
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Sources: brainyquote.com, Wikipedia, fciwomenswrestling2.com, FCI Elite Competitor, photos thank you Wikimedia Commons.
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