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March 26, 2023,
Certain things in life are inevitable.
You can’t stop it.
Now, we did say, in life. Not after you are dead. While you are still living.
So, the whole death and taxes message doesn’t apply here. Once you’re dead, in your life, there will be no more changes. As far as taxes go, even that is not entirely accurate because, as we’ve read, some corporations pay zero taxes.
Here, we are speaking about change while you are alive.
In high school, you can act a certain way and it will make you popular.
In college, the same behavior may make you look immature.
As an adult, in the workplace, that behavior could get you fired.
So change.
Good behavior or otherwise, you have no choice.
Why are many resistant to change?
Let’s get the long-term reason out of the way quickly.
Change means you are transitioning, one step at a time, one day at a time, one week at a time, one month at a time, one year at a time, one decade at a time, towards death.
Non-existence.
Let’s not focus on that sad ending.
What about change while you are alive?
Why don’t we go back to the high school example?
Do you realize, for some of our associates, it was the absolute best time of their lives.
The time period was simpler, people were less complicated and so many things were new and exciting. They were a high school star.
Nothing has ever come close again.
Why would you want to give that up?
There is a quiet under the radar film that speaks to that.
No Looking Back is a 1998 American drama film directed, written, produced by, and starring Edward Burns.
The film centers on the relationship of Charlie (Burns) and Claudia (Lauren Holly). The film had a limited theatrical release and grossed less than $250,000 domestically from its $5 million budget.
See what we mean? The gross, was gross. But the film was great.
Here is the basic storyline.
Charlie Ryan (Burns) returns to his hometown after failed attempts at unmentioned endeavors in California.
It becomes apparent that his mother no longer finds Charlie’s former youthful antics to be entertaining as one of her first greetings is telling Charlie she’s not going to put up with his crap this time.
That’s pretty direct.
At first, Charlie lays low, embarrassed he’s returned home empty handed and unaccomplished.
Hero to most of his childhood friends, Charlie appears to be the only one who left their small east coast sea-side town after high school.
Word does soon travel instigating a visit from one of Charlie’s best high school buds. Michael, (Bon Jovi) a thoroughly blue collar kind of guy, is interested in more than just saying hello after all these years.
Michael’s idea of catching up is letting Charlie know that Claudia and Michael are living together and are planning to be married.
Although Charlie tells Michael he is okay with how things have changed, he is shocked and hurt.
Yes, indeed. Things have changed. Here, shocked and hurt is just the beginning.
This film is worth your quiet evening.
That was high school.
Let’s move up the timeline a little to adulthood and why so many of us resist change.
The team at psychologytoday.com educate, “It takes energy to adapt and mental effort to learn new things. As children, we are constantly in a state of effortful growth but as we grow older, we become less flexible and more fixed in our ways. Learning how to be comfortable with discomfort is a skill that needs practice, especially as we age.”
Good point.
From our view, you can feel the forces in the present pushing you toward change and do your research, talk to others, especially older ones, and begin to progressively make changes or the life change will be forced upon you.
The marriage that ends.
The child who prematurely leaves home. For good.
The job that is down sized or now, obsolete.
In our experience, keep being aware that change is inevitable. Try and embrace it.
Perhaps a book might help.
Let’s walk over to the bookstore.
The Art of Change, A Guided Journal: 8 Weeks to Making a Meaningful Shift in Your Life Diary – September 6, 2022
By Nancy Levin (Author)
In this guided journal, master life coach Nancy Levin shows you how to tap into your desire and find the power you need to create lasting change.
There’s an art to making change–and it’s nowhere near as hard as you think.
Change begins with your commitment to your own evolution. As author and life coach Nancy Levin shares, when you practice the eight dimensions of reinvention, you can embody the art of change by consciously curating what you want to bring into your life and what you choose to release.
Nancy will be with you every step of the way, coaching you through this guided journal as you move in the direction of your reinvention: a return to the essence of who you are instead of endless versions of who you think you need to be. By dissolving the obstacles in your way, you can tap into your desire and discover the power available to you for creating lasting change.
Each week, you’ll explore one of the eight dimensions of reinvention through bite-size, actionable daily prompts designed to take you into the heart of who you are.
· Week 1: Vision: Your vision is the touchstone that determines the choices you make and the actions you take.
· Week 2: Calibration: Having a powerful vision for change requires the ability to continuously assess your journey and course-correct when you need to.
· Week 3: Beliefs: What ultimately holds you back is what you believe about yourself–which is why it’s a good idea to dig deep and uncover any hidden beliefs.
· Week 4: Self-Worth: If you believe you’re not enough, you’ll also believe there isn’t enough or you’ll never have enough. This gets shattered when you recognize that your worth is inherent.
· Week 5: Boundaries: By firmly setting and holding your boundaries, you’ll move out of blame and victimhood, and into responsibility and empowerment as you build a stronger relationship with yourself.
· Week 6: Choice: Every choice you make either serves or sabotages you. Your present-moment choices predict your future–so if you don’t make conscious choices to support your vision, your future will end up looking a lot like your past or present.
· Week 7: Self-Confidence: When you shift from the need for external validation and approval, you discover a limitless source of self-confidence. And when you chip away at the personas and roles you’ve been taught to take on, you reclaim the incredible person who’s buried beneath.
· Week 8: Visibility: Visibility is all about allowing yourself to be seen in the truth of who you are. Once you own and honor visibility, you claim the courage to make the changes that will lead toward greater happiness, fulfillment, and purpose–and change becomes a natural part of your journey.
Whether you’re determined to shift a small habit or move massive mountains, The Art of Change will meet you where you are and take you where you want to go. This journal is for truth seekers and brave, curious souls who are ready to make a shift in a short period of time–and to become skilled practitioners in the art of change.”
Very good.
Practice the skillsets that can help you continually take steps and work at change.
Our suggestion?
Do it yourself before life painfully does it for you.
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