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January 31, 2021,
It is painful medicine.
What is the operative word in the previous sentence? Painful or medicine?
The answer often depends upon your life philosophy.
There are some people who avoid pain at any cost. If taking medicine will soothe and ease the pain, they admonish, please bring more of it.
These are the same people who tend to desire activities that will reap a good time. Having fun is the most frequent pursuit they engage in. It is the most powerful drug.
The most effective medicine.
Life is short so why go through pain if you don’t have to. Hard to argue with that thinking.
We understand that, but there is another side to that coin. There always is.
Is it possible that to many, some types of pain, as long as they are temporary, are good for you?
How so?
It can make you stronger. You tend to learn from your mistakes, change for the better and you earn the respect of others.
Above all, it can help you grow tremendously. Adversity can have that effect upon you.
Adversity can be described as a state or instance of serious or continued difficulty or misfortune.
Granted, we all hate being in that situation, but so much of life is not about what happens to you, which can be bad enough, but how you react to it.
This appears to be confirmed at psychologytoday.com by Mr. Douglas LaBier Ph.D. who shares, “New research has looked at this link between hardships in life and wisdom. It confirms what we see in people’s lives from a mental health perspective. Their findings indicate that it’s not just about surviving hard times, but how we deal with difficulties and what we’re able to learn from the experiences.”
You’ve heard of the school of hard knocks and the implication here is that we graduate from that institution with honors if we have a positive attitude, take responsibility and learn from our hardships.
Sometimes those hardships are caused by our own mistakes.
We knew of someone in our circle who once possessed three beautiful homes, two of which she rented out. She made the mistake of refinancing them for no real purpose other than to take money out of them and fund her retirement and savings.
Then the market crashed in 2008.
The homes were all underwater and now she had no equity and a lot of debt.
She ended up losing all three of them.
In hindsight, if she had to do it all over again, she would put all of them on 10-15 year loans, never refinance and in her early fifties she would have had two houses paid off to be rented out which would have paid for the mortgage on the third one.
After she lost her homes she found herself renting an apartment in her fifties. She hadn’t lived in an apartment since she was in college. She was humiliated.
She also found that living in apartments was awful. Loud noises at night. People constantly coming and going with no stability. Late night parties. And she was viewed with a lack of respect. Because?
Why in the world was someone her age renting in her fifties?
Many of the people there were young, some of them young couples on the way up. These apartments were where they lived before they were about to buy their first house. One they most likely would not lose like she did. Virtually all of their parents owned or paid off their homes in their fifties. Why hadn’t she?
Now that is adversity.
Unfortunately it was self-created through bad decisions and her allowing people in her circle who were so-called friends and family to take advantage of her and get to her money.
More than once.
This is a very true accounting.
Does the pain get worse?
Yes it does.
In the former exclusive neighborhood that she lived in, many of the families with parents in their fifties did it right. They owned homes paid off free and clear and rented them out for income. They sadly witnessed her home being foreclosed on and watching her move out.
Our friend never recovered from her downfall.
She will most likely never have three houses again. Even if she turns her financial life around, why should she?
She has accepted her fate and continues to move forward without making excuses and blaming others.
Part of the lesson for her is to be aware of the pitfalls of getting bad advice and not being practical. Don’t create adversity if you don’t have. Easier said than done but it is prudent to take your time and think things through.
Speed dial forward.
We are in the middle of one of the worse pandemics the world has ever seen.
The adversity we are all facing is extreme.
Still, somehow, this is the time to take your time and think things through.
There are financial issues that surround the globe with collapsing economies.
Then there is the very real health danger.
How do you keep your head and emotional well-being throughout this crisis?
Take your time and think things through. Don’t go for the temporary pleasure or fix.
Though some unfortunate changes will become the new normal, most likely there will be an ending to all of this. A huge propellant would be a vaccine or some form of a cure. It has happened throughout history though often it didn’t happen within months.
The informative team at clickorlando.com reveal, “The first vaccine of the swine flu that plagued the U.S. in 2009 took roughly six months to arrive, according to NewScientist. During the SARS outbreak in 2002-03, it took 20 months for a vaccine to be prepared for clinical trial, USA Today reported. Moderna, one of the U.S. companies working on a vaccine, said it could have a vaccine ready for a phase one clinical trial in people within three months.”
Medical News Today adds, “At the moment, there are eight COVID-19 vaccines with authorization in countries around the world.
Until then, we follow the reaction rule. How will we as a public respond to this crisis? One encouragement or requirement is found at CNN. On January 30, 2021 they reported, “The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention issued an order Friday that will require people to wear a mask while using any form of public transportation in the US, beginning Monday at 11:59 p.m.
The CDC said that public transportation operators must use best efforts to enforce the mask mandate, including only boarding those wearing masks and disembarking any passengers who refuse to comply.”
The past tends to be one of the best predictors of the future. Based upon what we are researching and what we just read, there should be a cure coming.
During this adversity we should keep that in mind. The state we are in will not be permanent.
Look to people in your immediate circle and around the world, perhaps in a leadership position that you admire. In terms of keeping the right spirit and making good decisions, they might be the best examples to look to.
When we come out on the other side of this crisis, as a whole, the world will be wiser and better prepared for the next crisis.
Especially if we view adversity as something to learn and grow from.
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https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/adversity
https://fciwomenswrestling.com/
https://www.fcielitecompetitor.com/
https://www.cnn.com/world/live-news/coronavirus-pandemic-vaccine-updates-01-30-21/index.html
https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/vaccines-and-covid-19-the-latest-hopeful-research
