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April 19, 2023,
At some point, you realize it is over.
What is it?
Most of it. Your life’s early expectations that didn’t work out. In the early stages, you always had the hope that in the future something would change. In your favor, yet try hard that you may, it didn’t.
Now, you have to live with the devastation in the present.
Yes, someone always has a worse story than yours but somehow, in terms of certain failures, it doesn’t dull the pain.
Especially, from the outside looking in, so many others appear to have a much better life.
Bigger home.
Beautiful family.
Parents with money and benefits to entice the adult kids to keep coming back.
In all fairness, parents who did it right and based upon love and principal, the kids keep coming back.
In our business, we write about myriads of celebrities.
They have incredibly beautiful estates in massively expensive Southern California. They are running businesses and are partnering in meaningful charities. They continually have one television or movie project after another.
They are mind boggling in terms of success and here is the kicker.
At one time they were not much different than us and other ordinary people and yet look what they have accomplished and this business of it’s not what you know, it is who you know, that is a load of baloney.
It is their creativity, decision making, ability to take risks, be persistent, not take no for an answer and influence and impress people that has contributed to their success.
Most of us want that type of success before it is all over.
This is the past and the legendary rock band Nazareth sings it so well. Love Hurts.
“Love hurts, love scars
Love wounds and marks
Any heart
Not tough or strong enough
To take a lot of pain, take a lot of pain
Love is like a cloud
Holds a lot of rain
Love hurts
Ooh, ooh, love hurts
Some fools think of happiness
Blissfulness, togetherness
Some fools fool themselves, I guess
They’re not foolin’ me.”
Indeed.
They are not fooling anyone and neither are we fooling ourselves when love hurts.
The separation after the job loss.
The kids who you gave everything to, who don’t come home and truly don’t care if you live or die. Their only interest is what are you going to leave to them?
It can be extremely painful.
Especially when others seemed to have figured it out.
A classic film speak well to this pain.
Alice Doesn’t Live Here Anymore is a 1974 American comedy drama film directed by Martin Scorsese and written by Robert Getchell.
It stars Ellen Burstyn as a widow who travels with her preteen son across the Southwestern United States in search of a better life.
Kris Kristofferson, Billy “Green” Bush, Diane Ladd, Valerie Curtin, Lelia Goldoni, Vic Tayback, Jodie Foster, Alfred Lutter and Harvey Keitel appear in supporting roles.
Here is the storyline.
In Socorro, New Mexico, Alice Hyatt‘s husband, Donald, is killed in a car crash. Alice, a former singer, decides to sell the majority of her belongings and take her son Tommy to her childhood home of Monterey, California, where she hopes to pursue a singing career, which she had abandoned when she married Donald.
Their financial situation forces them to take temporary lodgings in Phoenix, Arizona, where she finds work as a lounge singer.
She meets Ben, a younger man who charms her into a sexual relationship that comes to a sudden end when his wife, Rita, confronts Alice.
Ben breaks into Alice’s apartment while Rita is there and physically assaults Rita in front of Alice; he also threatens Alice and smashes up her apartment. Fearing for their safety, Alice and Tommy quickly leave town.
Who said getting to where you want to be, to escape the past, would be easy?
Having spent most of what little money they had on their escape, Alice is forced to accept a job as a waitress in Tucson, Arizona at a local diner owned Mel, where she bonds with her fellow servers.
She soon meets a divorced local rancher named David.
David quickly becomes enamored with Alice, who is wary of pursuing another relationship; however, she begins to warm to him as he establishes a paternal relationship with Tommy.
And things begin to turn around.
What we liked about the film is that she was wise enough to leave the past behind and not stay stuck there.
Getting over our failures, pain and betrayal from the past will not be easy.
We know firsthand.
The challenge in staying stuck in the past is that, one, it will never change and two, it impedes us from moving forward, as Alice did here.
One of the things we have learned is that in order to move on, you must come to terms with what you personally did to cause some elements of your disappointments.
Without blaming others.
Even the things that did work out, your great high school experience where you were so popular, the wonderful neighborhood you lived in, the successful job experiences and the like, at some point, they are all over too.
So, it now is about where you are at this point time and be very aware, time and life has no sympathy for you.
If you want to improve your situation, right now, isn’t it time to take stock of where you are at and where you want to go without looking back?
Even if your family situation did not work out the way you had hoped, you have to let go of that and them.
Life is now about you.
With the time that you have left, what do you want to pursue? Right now?
Learn from your mistakes and try not to repeat them but stay focused on what is right with your life, right now.
At some point everything ends. Good, bad or in between but there is good news.
Now is the time for a new beginning.
The one where you take inventory of what you want and are willing to pursue. With no promises.
Sometimes, that is all that we have left but you know what?
At least it’s something.
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