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July 24, 2021,
Like a hammer, life, at times, is going to try and pound you into submission.
It is true love that will help you weather the storm.
That is why, when you find true love, you had better do everything in your power to hold on to it.
It is very possible you will only find it once.
Now there may be imitations of it down the road, but they are just that, an imitation.
What triggered our thinking on the subject?
Fertility desperation.
We have heard of stories in real life and have watched them on the screen where a couple in their thirties desperately wants to conceive but can’t.
Though not fair, we can’t help but wonder about the people involved and what options they had for true love in their late teens or early twenties.
Our origins are as poor Southerners. Flatland hillbillies from the Bryan, College Station Texas area before the era of Kyle Field that now seats over 100,000 people.
When we were there back in the late 60’s and early 70’s, there wasn’t 100,000 people anywhere to be seen.
We bring this up because we found our culture, on many subject matters, to be very straight forward and simple. We remember one of our elders listening to someone talk about love. He listened quietly, didn’t say anything and once they left, muttered something we would never forget.
“Love is for the young.”
He went on to explain that as we get older, other factors like assets, careers, social standing and, heaven forbid, fertility issues now come into play and even though you may find a compatible match, that is not remotely about love.
Lose those assets and watch what happens to your so called love relationship.
The symbolism transfers and translates into other aspects of life.
Here at Female Competition International (FCI), we love our product that we have been publishing since 2012. How do we know that we love it?
Because we were willing to give up virtually everything to pursue it.
Remember, our products include women’s wrestling and many in our former organized religion circle shunned us for it.
So be it.
One of our leaders turned down a nice paying job in Human Resources at a hospital to pursue this fulltime.
We lost large sums of money for three years in a row.
That’s life’s hammer pounding us.
We’ll weather the storm because we love it.
If we were offered a billion dollars to walk away from producing our product, we wouldn’t even consider taking it.
That is true love.
Be it with attractive people or important dreams, there is nothing like being in love.
Absolutely nothing.
So, when true love comes your way, especially when you are young, you better be careful not to walk away from it.
Very important, the first step is to recognize it. The second step is to appreciate it and hold on to it.
You know the score. You know it when you feel it. It is like no other feeling in the world. You also know when the other person feels the same way about you. You both feel it.
So what are you going to do about it?
Some will be concerned about their college pursuit, business opportunities in other counties, states or foreign lands. Many women will be concerned about their career and want to postpone marriage.
Be careful.
We love to turn to film for life lessons and now is the time to do it.
We do it painfully.
There are so many examples that we could share with you but it would take forever.
Having said that, some viewing of love lost and not pursued is just too painful to watch.
We’ll present some titles to you but not go too far into the storyline.
Onegin is very painful to watch.
Onegin is a 1999 British-American romantic drama film based on Alexander Pushkin‘s 1833 novel in verse Eugene Onegin, co-produced by British and American companies and shot mostly in the United Kingdom. Onegin is Martha Fiennes‘ directorial debut and stars her brother Ralph Fiennes in the role of Yevgeny (Eugene) Onegin, Liv Tyler as Tatiana, Irene Worth as Princess Alina and Toby Stephens as Lensky.
Here is the storyline.
In early 19th century Russia, a bored St. Petersburg socialite named Onegin inherits his uncle’s estate in the country.
There, he meets a neighboring landowner and aspiring poet, Lensky, and a widowed mother and her two daughters. The poet is engaged to the elder daughter Olga. Her sister, Tatiana (Tanya), writes Onegin a passionate love letter but he turns her down because of her youth and inexperience.
Unbelievable.
Especially since he has noticed her, even previously following her movements.
The scene where the two leave the party and sit in the isolated cottage and Tatiana humbles herself and wants to find out if he loves her too, Onegin’s aloofness and arrogance is maddening.
He instead dances with her sister.
Onegin departs from his country estate.
Six years later, he returns to St Petersburg, he encounters Tanya, the woman whom he spurned, who is now a woman of refinement and married to a prince. Onegin immediately sees Tanya as desirable, and falls in love with her. He begs her forgiveness for his past behavior. Tanya refuses Onegin, explaining to him that he has missed his chance with her; she will be faithful to her husband.
He receives her rejection with despair.
So do we.
Having said that, we completely agree with Tanya.
That last scene is a real tear jerker. He really blew it. They would have made such a beautiful couple. They would have had beautiful children.
He should have recognized love when it was right in front of his arrogant face.
Here is one more excruciating tale form the past.
A Summer Story is a British drama film released in 1988. Directed by Piers Haggard, with a script written by Penelope Mortimer. It stars James Wilby, Imogen Stubbs, and Susannah York.
Here is the storyline.
In 1904, a young gentleman visiting a rural area has an intense love affair with a village girl. Eighteen years later, he is passing that way again.
In the summer of 1904 Frank Ashton, an educated young man from London, is on a walking holiday in Devon with a friend. When he falls and twists his ankle, Ashton is helped at a nearby farmhouse and stays there for a few days to recover, while his friend goes on.
Ashton quickly falls for the village girl who looks after him, Megan David, and she falls deeply in love with him.
Ashton and Megan spend a night together, and after that he takes the train to a seaside town to cash a check at a bank, promising to return the next morning and whisk Megan away with him and marry her.
She waits for him at the agreed upon spot on the hill but he never shows.
Why did he never show?
Once he returned to his social station and community, he was too embarrassed to bring her there.
He foolishly thought his station in life was more important than the love he felt for this incredibly sweet and beautiful country girl.
As life would have it (here comes the hammer), almost 20 years later, he returns to the countryside where he first met the girl.
He is now married to a woman, who from the outside looking in, seems more like a relative than a passionate lover, where the two have agreed upon arrangements, like probably sleeping in separate beds.
A marriage of social standing and convenience.
Medicine designed to soften their loneliness.
They never had children.
As he is driving back home, guess who is walking down the road with animal game in his hand. That’s right, his handsome, down to earth love child son, who waves hi to the stranger in the car, not knowing that stranger is his father.
Sigh, sigh and double sigh.
Can we go on?
Of course.
Michael Caine’s left behind love in The Last Valley and Montgomery Clift’s foolishness in The Heiress are at the top of our list.
The most painful? Warren Beatty and Natalie Wood’s ill-fated future in Splendor In The Grass.
You know how you can tell in each scene that they are not going to get together?
It is when they talk about the future.
In their future painting, their futures do not include each other.
Real life imitates art and art imitates real life.
We have to tread carefully here attempting to not be self-righteous or cruel.
When we see middle aged people pine about not having children, when at one time they were capable but decided not to, or beautiful women who pursued a great career and now in their late thirties desperately want to have a child, we privately question their previous decision making.
When their window was open.
When it really mattered.
We won’t say how we feel about them in writing.
Sympathy is not a word high on the list. Maybe it should but that would not be honest.
They had love in their life in the past. Virtually all of us do.
The question is, when it was right in front of them, did they recognize it? If they did, did they decide that something else was more important?
We’re going to stop before we get too passionate about this discussion. We now recognize something.
We can hear a hammer in the distance.
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