Crowded pubs, buzzing coffee shops, guzzling frat parties, vibrating sports bars and savory aroma filled packed restaurants all speak to our need to socialize.

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In the old world of competitive female submission wrestling events, the after event socializing used to involve participating in mixers that involved alcohol, flirting and the hope of procuring a session.

In the new more corporate imitated environment, when the customers and female grapplers get together after an event, it’s just for that, to socialize.

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And secure a session.

Its fun and we all need it. Very good for our physical and emotional health.

In terms of sessions, when there is more of a corporate approach, you still meet the customers but the Session Girls ability to secure a dignified experience is far greater than the spirits and heavy flirting pathway.

Socialization makes it possible for us to fully function as human beings.

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The downside of non-socialization is found at flatworldknowledge.com which reports, “Our example of a socially isolated child was hypothetical, but real-life examples of such children, often called feral children, have unfortunately occurred and provide poignant proof of the importance of social interaction for socialization and of socialization for our ability to function as humans.

One of the most famous feral children was Victor of Aveyron, who was found wandering in the woods in southern France in 1797. He then escaped custody but emerged from the woods in 1800. Victor was thought to be about age 12 and to have been abandoned some years earlier by his parents; he was unable to speak and acted much more like a wild animal than a human child. Victor first lived in an institution and then in a private home. He never learned to speak, and his cognitive and social development eventually was no better than a toddler’s when he finally died at about age 40 (Lane, 1976).”

Never thought that being a party animal or socialite is probably far better for us than bad.

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It certainly helps in terms of meeting prospective business and employment leads.

“A basic element of the American dream is equal access to education as the lubricant of social and economic mobility.”… Nicholas Kristof

At the masterful Psychology Today they add, “People with more social support tend to live longer than those who are more isolated, and this is true even after accounting for your overall level of health.

More recently, there has been accumulating evidence that socializing is good for your brain health. People who connect with others generally perform better on tests of memory and other cognitive skills. And, in the long run, people with active social lives are less likely to develop dementia than those who are more socially isolated.”

There is another major benefit to socializing.

How are we going to meet the loves of our life as opposed to Mr. or Ms. Right Now, if we don’t put ourselves out there and get out in the game?

The luv game.

Need some tips?

We could suggest a fun movie.

Remember Roger Dodger?

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As always, Wikipedia is fantastic at explaining story lines. “Roger Dodger is a 2002 American comedy-drama that explores the relationship between men, women, and sex. Directed by Dylan Kidd and starring Campbell Scott and Jesse Eisenberg, the film follows Roger Swanson (Scott) and his nephew (Eisenberg) during a night on the town in search of sex.”

What could be more fun?

They continue, “After cynical New York advertising copywriter Roger Swanson (Campbell Scott) is dumped by his on-again/off-again girlfriend, Joyce (Isabella Rossellini) — who is also his boss — his painful workday is further complicated by the unexpected arrival of his 16-year-old nephew, Nick (Jesse Eisenberg).

After asking to spend the night at Roger’s, Nick reveals that he has come to ask for help—in hopes of ditching his virginal status, Nick begs Roger for a lesson in the art of seduction. Embittered Roger then takes on the role of a nocturnal drill sergeant in an imaginary war between the sexes, starting Nick’s training at an upscale singles bar. There they meet two beautiful women (Elizabeth Berkley and Jennifer Beals).”

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Then the fun begins because after all, the girlie game is a confidence game.

Campbell Scott is at his absolute best portraying a bitter, sardonic, girlie capture know it all persona.

Couldn’t stop laughing during this one.

Here are some of the beautiful girlies that we not only shot video with but dined out with as well.

Their matches can be enjoyed at http://grapplingstars.com/fvsf-wrestling-videos/ 

Lovely Cheyenne, Thai in Southern California by moonlight once and Chinese in South San Francisco another time.

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With Poppy and Olivia we had Japanese in San Jose.

Sweet Poppy

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With Isamar, Dana and Olivia we dined at a Mexican restaurant in San Jose.

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With gorgeous FeFe and Katie, it was Thai in Berkeley.

Sexy Katie (right)

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Yummy FeFe

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We enjoyed Minxy Li, Daisy Ducati and Evadne in a sandwich shop near San Jose State University.

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With Ms. Money Penny Barber, Bella Rossi and Isamar, it was Japanese in San Jose.

Elegant Bella

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With Samantha Grace it’s been so many times that we’ve lost track. Mexican food in San Jose and Canoga Park. Salami sandwiches at night in Las Vegas. That was so much fun. Afterwards we went to Cirque du Soleil.

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Cirque du Soleil or Circus of the Sun, is a Canadian entertainment company.

It is the largest theatrical producer in the world.

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Based in Montreal, Quebec, Canada, and located in the inner-city area of Saint-Michel, it was founded in Baie-Saint-Paul in 1984 by two former street performers, Guy Laliberté and Gilles Ste-Croix.

Ah the social memories.

So a life lesson for newer Session Girls in our time period?

The corporate approach is much better.

So let’s talk a little more about what socializing can do for your confidence and how it can improve your life.

Yes, sometimes you actually do need to get out more.

Let’s turn our attention to a visiting writer who is ready to socialize with us.

By Phillip Ramphisa     Submitted On June 21, 2016

3 Fast and Easy Ways to Improve Social Self-Confidence

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Believing that you that you are unacceptable or unlikable socially can be painful. Lack of self-confidence can make you get afraid to interact socially. When in situations where you will be observed by others or where you need to speak in front of a crowd or to strangers you might feel anxious. This might cause you to act awkward. You might avoid eye contact and behave too cautiously. The idea that you are socially unacceptable might get reinforced to you when you feel that other people react strangely towards you.

As the result of the challenges you face you might end up avoiding social contact even though you know being in social places and interacting with others is a big part of any persons’ life. We cannot always avoid social situations in living our daily lives. You might get invited to parties where friends are celebrating or by colleagues at work celebrating their birthdays. It is not always possible to avoid interacting socially.

So how do you improve social self-confidence when you do not have it? Before I tell you how, let me start by telling a little story about a rat.

When you have a rat in the house that eats up your tomatoes and messes up your fruits. To catch it, you would need to know how and when and where it operates. You would want to catch it when the house is quite with a piece of cheese in the mouse trap or place a rat poison in places where the rat is likely to hang around.

A similar approach is applicable to improving self-confidence. You need to understand how your mind operates and what patterns you go through so that you can interrupt those patterns and form new ones.

The first trigger is mentally, you get images of you doing something that will cause you embarrassment. What you think is what you feel. Your thoughts cause you to feel anxious. When feeling anxious you respond by avoiding interacting socially and the result is that you lack social self-confidence. To overcome social anxiety therefore you need to influence this pattern. Let’s draw how the pattern looks like:

Social situation (environment) – images of embarrassment (thought) – anxiety, fear (feelings)- avoidance (response)

We do know that we cannot change the external environment (sometimes you will be in a social situation whether you want to or not). We can only influence ourselves internally in terms of how we respond to the external environment. Constantly trying to avoid social situations may serve as a temporary solution. However, this cannot guarantee long-term success towards improving how you interact socially. What you can change is the thought process, your feelings as well as your responses.

Past failures might have conditioned you to view every social situation that you need to interact in as anxiety triggering. We are human after all human, once we are burned we never want to move near a lit candle. So to help you improve social self-confidence you might first need to forget past failures and try to change how you view social situations first. Here are the 3 ways that I have developed to help you overcome social anxiety and improve social interaction.

  1. View social situations as opportunities by recalling past success

Some successful sport teams have a tradition in which they take players through past successes before a cup final. The players get shown previous cup finals before the match and get taken through all the trophies that the team has won before. The past success of the team helps players get motivated to win another cup final for the team. If you ever had past successes interacting socially use this as anchors for yourself. Remember how you successfully delivered a presentation in front of an audience and interacted very well with a stranger. Have you ever been in a situation where you delivered a public speech and did well despite your fear? This is the time to have these memories fresh in your mind. Remembering your past successes and celebrating past victories can help you believe in yourself and be able to overcome present anxiety feelings toward social interactions.

  1. Use visualization to empower yourself for social situations

Access the power of your subconscious mind by constantly picturing yourself interacting well socially. This need not take long. Just spending 5 minutes seeing yourself approaching a stranger and having a pleasant conversation or picturing yourself delivering a great presentation publicly can help. Once our mind has been where we want to be, our bodies just need to support us in getting there. By mentally picturing yourself having social self-confidence, you will be able to give yourself better strength to play out your mental images in real life when the situations calls for it. Be careful though, visualization needs to be done before a social interaction. Doing this actively as you are interacting socially might be problematic because it will force you to think about what you are doing. When thinking about what you are doing you are more likely to get anxious. So visualize before social interactions and try as much as you can to remain natural when in social situations.

  1. Make social interaction a challenging game of exposure

Sometimes we take ourselves too seriously and this does not help. Improving social anxiety requires you to occasionally have a playful attitude. Use a playful attitude to expose yourself socially. Exposure is scientifically proven to be very effective when it comes to improving social anxiety. I know this is the last thing that you might want to hear because when you are uncomfortable interacting socially the immediate response is to avoid social interaction. However, the more exposure you get interacting socially the better you will become. Aim to start a small conversation every time you are in a social situation with a stranger. This can be as simple as saying hallo to a cashier each time you pay for items in a store or when shopping. Just asking the cashier his/her name and thanking him/her for the service is enough to get you going.

Few of us remember to appreciate cashiers when shopping, you will make their day just showing appreciation and equally improve yourself. Try as much as you can to expose yourself.

Petrol attendants are also good people to interact with in a non-threatening environment to start a conversation. This is better done playfully so that you see it as a challenge instead of getting too serious and reading too much on the results. The more you bring it to your awareness to interact with others the better you will expose yourself and improve how you interact socially.

Spending time with a friend who is not afraid to interact socially might also help in this situation. Human beings learn by seeing also. If your anxiety is specific such as falling in a public place then get a friend to pretend falling in a public space so that you can visually see that the results are not as worse as you thought they would be. Expose yourself without emotional attachment. Use a playful attitude with any friend who is comfortable interacting socially and have fun doing so. Practice makes perfect, this is also true in getting rid of social anxiety.

I am committed to your success and would love to share strategies with you that have helped me change my own life and the lives of many who I have helped achieve their goals. Subscribe to my monthly newsletter for FREE to receive emails about the strategies that I have used to change people’s lives visit http://www.phillipramphisa.com/ to subscribe.

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