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July 8, 2021
Is it alive?
It must be.
No, not me. You look first.
Okay, let’s both take a closer look. Don’t get too close. It must be alive because we can feel its power as it lies still.
Bewitching.
Interesting. It’s turning green.
To some people, money is everything and for them, it has to be, because it controls virtually every aspect of their lives.
There is the expression that money doesn’t buy happiness.
Who said that anyway?
As shared by the team at teachingbanyan.com, “A phrase, not exactly similar to ‘money can’t buy happiness’ but meaning exactly the same, was first coined by a Genevan philosopher, writer, and composer, Jean-Jacques Rousseau. In 1750 he wrote – ‘Money buys everything, except morality and citizens.”
That was his day because during the days that we have lived, at times, money has bought both morality and citizens as a package deal.
Saying all of that, the pathway here is not about corruption, it is about the emotional attachment that people place to money. To some it is a companion who they worship, spiritually love and cannot live without.
In addition, they also tie their self-worth and self-esteem to how much attention their green lover gives them.
Especially in front of attractive others, green with envy.
Real live experiences speak volumes.
We have a male associate who, during the 2008 housing crash, lost three homes and $200,000, was soon looking for a high building to jump off of. Why?
He judged his self-worth as a male based upon how many homes he owned and how much money he had in his portfolio. Without those material things, he preferred not to live.
His deepest fears, losing his money, came true.
Following the thinking of money expert Ken Honda, the team at psychologytoday.com speak to this, “Money is tied to basic survival for most of us. As Honda pointed out, unless you subsist off the land, you’re dependent on money to provide the fundamentals like food and shelter. Thus we often attach fear to money.”
We understand that. Still, we feel that people’s attachment to money goes beyond that. Like a love relationship, it is very, very personal. A relationship where you will do virtually anything not to be rejected.
Or lose the love of your life.
See if you agree with the following thinking as shared by the great minds at healthyplace.com, “When you let money dictate how much you value yourself, you really won’t value yourself very much. Deep down, we all want to feel that we have traits and qualities that give us a sense of self-respect and confidence. But the amount of money in our bank account – or other signs of wealth – isn’t really enough to give us healthy self-esteem.”
Let us think about that for a second.
Not going to give us a healthy self-esteem?
What then is an unhealthy self-esteem? That is very different from low self-esteem.
From the chair we’re sitting in, we will take a high self-esteem, whether it is healthy or unhealthy.
As long as it’s high.
Another real life example speaks to this.
We have another friend who is retired, has no rent or mortgage and had a modest savings account. We say modest because he recently came into some money that completely changed that.
Modest turned into great.
When he went into the bank to invest in some financial instruments, he loved how the female bankers looked at him.
As far as self-esteem, his climbed through the roof after his new acquisition.
Is he out spending lots of money on frivolous fun things and upscale vacations? Absolutely not. He just loves knowing that the money is nicely protected and in his name. He was sort of happy before.
Now he is completely happy.
For him, money changed everything. Happy? He’s downright giddy, grinning up a storm every day. Make that goopy giddy. Truly. Talk about laughing all the way to the bank.
We now turn to film. Again.
In terms of how money affects someone’s self-esteem, this is an absolute classic.
The Nest is a 2020 psychological thriller film written, directed, and produced by Sean Durkin.
It stars Jude Law, Carrie Coon, Charlie Shotwell, Oona Roche, and Adeel Akhtar. It had its world premiere at the Sundance Film Festival on January 26, 2020, and was released in the United States and Canada on September 18, 2020, by IFC Films and Elevation Pictures respectively.
Here is the storyline.
In the 1980s, Englishman Rory O’Hara and his American wife, Allison, live a happy middle-class life in New York City with their children Ben and Sam.
Or so the wife thought. She was completely happy. Her husband wasn’t.
Allison teaches horseback riding, while Rory is a trader. Believing his opportunities in the U.S. are limited, Rory convinces Allison to relocate with him to England, where he plans to return to the firm of his former employer Arthur Davis. Despite Allison’s initial misgivings, the family moves into a huge old mansion in Surrey.
Like really huge.
Like really, really, really huge.
Do four people really need that much house?
Rory convinces Allison she can start her own horse farm on the property, buying a horse named Richmond for her. Construction begins on a stable while Sam and Ben are enrolled in expensive private schools. Rory takes Allison to high-class dinner parties with Arthur and his colleagues.
Sounds pretty good from here.
Then the bottom starts to fall out.
Doesn’t that usually happen when you live way beyond your means?
Several weeks later, construction abruptly stops on the stable. Learning that Rory never paid the builders, Allison discovers that his bank account is nearly empty. Rory promises he will have money soon as a big deal is about to close, but Allison is forced to provide for the family by cutting into her hidden cash fund. Allison bristles at Rory’s efforts to appear high-class while they remain nearly broke.
What intrigued us most about this film was how incredibly important it was to Rory to appear to be wealthy. How his sense of self-worth and self-esteem are completely tied to how much money he has.
Even right up until the end when he is about to lose everything, he is still trying to paint a rosy picture to his family that a big payday is right around the corner.
They’ve heard this story over and over before and in a very sweet gesture, as Rory begins to sob uncontrollably, his teenage daughter gently takes his hand and quietly sits him down to a plate of pancakes.
Well. Maybe we were wrong after all.
Money can’t buy certain things, sweet, feminine and simple.
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OPENING PHOTO Femcompetitor.com, grapplingstars.com, fciwomenswrestling.com, fcielitecompetitor.com, By-puhhha-Editorial-photo-credit-Shutterstock-
https://www.teachingbanyan.com/proverbs/money-cant-buy-happiness-proverb/
https://www.healthyplace.com/blogs/buildingselfesteem/2018/9/how-money-affects-self-esteem
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Nest_(2020_film)
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