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June 28, 2024,
Is there a variation to the rule, 10 percent of life is what happens to you and 90 percent of life is how you react to it?
Possibly.
For example, when you are young, who are the people you are bringing into your life? It gets real simple. If you are brining questionable to bad people into your life, what happens to you can increasingly go from okay, to bad, to worse.
It is wonderful when young ones have great people in their lives and wonderful mentors. Great people in their corners. It makes a massive difference.
What is the key to analyzing whether and older more experienced person who comes into your life will be good for you?
Are they selfish?
That is extremely important to find out early, before great damage is done.
Are they nice to you and influencing you to further their purpose or are they assisting, guiding and helping you because they want to see you do well?
Real life experience.
We have an associate who we’ll call Tim.
One of the things that Tim noticed about a mentor he admired, when he was young, was that he always had to be the boss. He always had to be above Tim. He would help Tim in many ways, as long as he was the top dog between the two of them.
Would you say Tim’s mentor’s behavior was selfish or unselfish?
If you are young, start to see the early warning signs.
The biggest warning signs is if a mentor or more experienced friend tries to influence you to do things that further their best interest over yours. You may receive some benefit from their help, but ultimately, they benefit the most.
Organized religions can absolutely fall into this category. If you religious guides are there to help, heal and inspire, those are good signs. On the other hand, if they are asking you to follow them, get involved in membership drives, only associate with other members, only marry other members, those are early warning signs you might be in a cult.
A cult is a group which is typically led by a charismatic and self-appointed leader or group of leaders, who tightly controls its members, requiring unwavering devotion to a set of beliefs and practices which are sometimes considered outside the norms of society.
They often express, this is what God wants you to do, when in reality, it is what they want you to do.
It is in some contexts a pejorative term, also used for a new religious movement or other social group which is defined by its unusual religious, spiritual, or philosophical beliefs and rituals, or its common interest in a particular person, object, or goal.
When you are young, be very wary to committing to groups. Think for yourself. Do your homework. Do your research. As we leave this segment, this is really critical to understand because you can waste years of the most important time of your life following the pathway of the clever and selfish.
Time to walk over to the bookstore.
Be Your Own Mentor (Briefcase Books (Paperback)) Paperback – Illustrated, January 10, 2008
By Anne Bruce (Author)
“Successful career and life coach Anne Bruce knows how you can find happiness, fulfillment, and success at work and in life-and it’s not by hiring a coach! Be Your Own Mentor delivers a unique, do-it-yourself process for identifying your hidden talents, abilities, and passions and developing them on your own.
Bruce’s four-part approach empowers you to get where you want in life by adopting a free-agent mindset, taking intelligent risks and building self-esteem, setting a course for balance in work and life, and discovering and developing your personal strengths.”
We like this approach because it teaches you to rely upon self. Absolutely do your homework, and you are getting mentored, most of us need that, but here is what is important.
You are not following anyone.
You are making your own decisions.
Another major important area of meeting and associating with people who can bring good or bad things into your life, is relationships.
Here, is your new friend and possibly romantic interest’s behavior on the selfish side or do they tend to be a giver? What are their relationships like with others? Have you met their family members in relaxed, casual settings where people are not trying to put on an act to impress you?
Something to think about.
Let’s turn to film.
Revealing film. It is called Widow On The Hill.
The team at IMDb explains, “Based on the true story of Linda Dupree, a hospice nurse who marries Hank Cavanaugh, the rich widower of one of her ex-patients. He installs her in his Virginia mansion, much to his daughter’s anger, and even gives her his ex-wife’s precious possessions. He then falls ill and dies and suddenly Henstridge is one of the richest women in the state. Then the whispers start; did she have a hand in the killings?”
The key in this movie was when the hospice nurse’s behavior began to turn from professional to questionably overly friendly with the wealthy husband of the woman she was taking care of.
That was the immediate warning sign. The problem was that the husband appeared to do most of his thinking with what was below his belt buckle. That kind of thinking eventually got him in real trouble. Selfish?
The nurse was the epitome of it.
She eventually ruined his life.
Having said all of that, we need people in our lives. Some of them are doing so well, we might desire them as a guide and mentor.
That’s perfectly fine.
As your association progresses, watch their behavior for selfishness. When you make arrangements to meet, is mostly about what they want to do, where they want to go, what they want to eat and the like? Those are signs.
We all could use people in our corner who are unselfish. If we can find that?
Then the ten percent rule, which states, life is what happens to you, will bring wonderful things into your life.
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