Men learn to love the person they are attracted to and women become more and more attracted to the person they love.

Tomatoes to some people are Tomahtoes to others.

Does the difference really matter?

The same may be said towards the opinion of what constitutes a life of meaning or one void thereof.

In some circles there seems to be an assumption that very wealthy people who superficially donate to charity without real emotional currency and live globetrotting lives infused with great restaurants, elite resort hotels, attendance at expensive invitation only events and life in Architectural Digest homes behind tastefully gated walls with sun splashed ocean views are more shallow than the rest of society who toils everyday where family, religion and career are the most important components of their existence.

Forgive us but we need to add one more qualifying description to the lives of this selective wealthy group.

They sometimes have a quiet disdain for and no empathy towards those who are not.

Some would describe that as shallow but if that theory were really true, how come so many of those who supposedly are living lives of substance desire to become extremely wealthy so that they can globe trot, stay in elite hotels and obtain the rest of dotted benefits on the wealthy lifestyle brochure?

It is a hard question to answer.

Viktor Emil Frankl, born March 26, 1905, who lived to September 2, 1997,  was an Austrian neurologist and psychiatrist as well as a Holocaust survivor.

Mr. Frankl was the founder of logotherapy, which is a form of existential analysis, the “Third Viennese School of Psychotherapy“. His best-selling book Man’s Search for Meaning.

He chronicles his experiences as a concentration camp inmate, which led him to discover the importance of finding meaning in all forms of existence, even the most brutal ones, and thus, a reason to continue living. Frankl became one of the key figures in existential therapy and a prominent source of inspiration for humanistic psychologists.

Mr. Frankl theorized that an absence of meaning in one’s life can result in boredom and apathy—the “existential vacuum”—and attempts to avoid or “escape” the vacuum can include short-acting distracting behaviors.

Like living a shallow life filled with extra-marital affairs, extravagant escapism and purchasing suits and dresses that go for $10,000.


What do you think?

After all of these years we are still, well, undecided.

Delving into the world of film may provide some answers so we decided to take a run at An Eye For Beauty., article,Monument Releasing photo credit

The film stars Éric Bruneau as Luc, an architect from Quebec married to Stéphanie (Mélanie Thierry), who begins an extramarital affair with Lindsay (Melanie Merkosky) while on a business trip to Toronto.

That is the short version.

Some reviewers are kind enough to share with us a more expanded version.

Stephen Holden of the New York Times relates, “Ugliness is a crime against humanity. Because that smug, straight-faced remark by Luc (Éric Bruneau), a handsome, successful architect to a group of supercilious friends in “An Eye for Beauty” is not entirely facetious, you may never forgive him for it.

“An Eye for Beauty” is the cinematic equivalent of a photo spread in Vogue or Architectural Digest that taunts you with images of rich, well-to-do beautiful people leading the tastefully glamorous life.

The message that “An Eye for Beauty” wants to send is that gorgeous people suffer just like the rest of us.”

Okay, so they suffer like the rest of us. Maybe we kind of knew that. But not really.

We need more.

Enter Michael Rechtshaffen of the Los Angeles Times. He asserts, “A chance reencounter while accepting an award in Paris takes confident Luc (Éric Bruneau) back to a time in his life when he seemed to have everything going for him, including a great home in idyllic rural Quebec that he shares with his beautiful, affectionate wife (Mélanie Thierry).

When it comes to any emotional resonance, however, “An Eye for Beauty” is all façade.”

Hmm. All a façade. All of it?

Living a great lifestyle where people admire and respect you and women want to have affairs with you is a façade?


We need one more review.

Kimber Myers of surmises, “Instead of a relationship drama, the film works better as a 100-minute ad for Canadian travel or the benefits of competitive sports for adults.

The film stresses Luc’s happiness, and he enjoys what appears to be a sexy and romantic relationship with this wife. So it’s surprising when all it takes during a business trip to Toronto is a glance from Lindsay (Melanie Merkosky) to embark on a heated affair.

The film is perhaps the best argument against style over substance.

“An Eye for Beauty” feels like it was written by an alien who learned about human behavior from soap operas. This is compounded by the mostly repellent characters that populate the movie. They’re snobs who make fun of each other for knowing what IKEA looks like on the day of a sale, without any sense of irony from either the script or the people in it. They say awful, pretentious things and yet there is little accountability for their actions or words.”

Well said. So the rich and not so famous, but with emphasis, extremely rich, often are shallow.

But do they have to be?

Is it their lifestyle that influences them to become shallower, indulging in every selfish whim without regard for others or is it the opposite?

In other words, before they became wealthy, were they already shallow but then later became better than the rest of us at successfully making loads of money and attaining professional prominence?

Or after they became extremely wealthy they lost perspective?

Since so many of us seem to desire wealth and all that goes with it, we sense there should be caution in assuming that becoming wealthy with a lot of time on our hands and money in it will influence us to become shallow.

We need a second opinion.

Now this following view is very personal and we are not remotely saying that we are in agreement with it but we feel it does speak to why some see wealth as the answer to achieving the Holy Grail of happiness in life.

The ultimate fulfillment.

There are thousands of counter articles and arguments about how a life of simplicity, faith, family, love of your job and being active in the community is the sure fire formula to happiness.

The following appears to be a different point of view.

Hopefully not a shallow one.

Please enjoy.

The Stigma of the Rich: Does Success in Life Mean Failure in Relationships?, article, Bruce Mars photo credit

By James Druman

There’s a very real phenomenon in this world where people with more money are often judged and sometimes even alienated. There’s an actual stigma out there, created by not only resentment and jealousy but also by this widespread notion that people who attract and accumulate money are somehow doing something wrong. As if they are cheating the system or doing something unethical to be a success in life.

So this begs the question, is money worth having if it means it will repel people? Does it alienate you?

This whole idea of money being somehow tied to unethical behavior is an interesting one, and it is a myth that has certainly rooted its place somewhere in the American psyche, and indeed, the world at large. For centuries, people who could not or did not want to see another idea of what money represents have perpetuated this lie.

It gets passed down to growing children and we soak up this idea as we age, imprinting it on the computer of the mind. Your beliefs really do create your reality and decide your level of success in life. They define what is real and what is not real in your life, and many who learn to think outside the box find that building the strength to change your beliefs directly changes your reality and your life.

Since we are grown, thinking adults now, we have the ability to decide what is true rather than simply rely on every truth society has given us. And one great truth that I’ve found in my life is that wealth is not inherently evil.

In fact, the people who create wealth and success in their lives are often the ones that create the most value, after all, what power does money have but the power we give it by allowing it to represent value?

And not only that but those with money have the ability, and often the desire, to give more. There’s no reason to hoard when they have so much, while someone with a scarcity mindset must cling to all they have. In fact, many find the key to success in life is finding how you can better serve others.

Here’s the answer to the original question though, will you be alienated by choosing a different belief than that of modern society? My question in response to this question is: why do you care?

Listen, humans are judgmental, especially ignorant humans. No matter what you do in this world, someone is going to judge you and talk about you and perhaps even cause you problems. This holds true whether you have money or don’t have money, and it is likely a reality in your life right now.

95% of the world will never change. They’ll never grow personally or strive for a better life. They’ll never reach for success. Look around you, are these 95% of people actually happy? Will they ever be?

What you should concern yourself with is being part of the 5% that pushes for a greater world and a greater existence on Earth, the 5% that honestly strives to create value for others. Their contribution is often even contagious, spreading to others and causing more givers and creators of value on this Earth. Their legacy lives on even when they are gone.

These are often the people who attract and accumulate wealth.

Don’t let other people steer your thoughts about what you are and what you want in this world. They know nothing about you, and in almost all cases, those who judge you are working from a set of information that is very limited in scope. These are the people in the world that you really should not worry about, they will always find a way to resent someone and will always be miserable. They very rarely have any real success in life.

Find the truth for yourself. Don’t listen to me or anyone else about what is good and what is not. Take the time to think and to grow as a person, decide what brings value to this world, and then decide if it is worth having a part of.

But never forget that best relationships in this world are never built on judgment and certainly not the amount of money, or lack thereof, in your bank account. It should be built on respect, trust, and common bonds. Anything less is not worth worrying yourself over.

Click on the link now to download my free report: 10 Successful Lies About Success at []. Jim Rohn once said, “My suggestion would be to walk away from the 90% who don’t and join the 10% who do.” Are you ready to learn the truth?

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OPENING PHOTO, article, Mosse photos