In a true accounting there was a high school teenage girl that we’ll call Misty who as a junior drastically changed her look to become more attractive after being bullied for years.
Post change, when she looked into the mirror, she saw the same person; someone who was very unattractive and undesirable but with a different hair style and makeup.
At school her senior year, she noticed something odd was happening. Boys would walk down the opposite side of the hallway past her and kept looking into her eyes.
She was puzzled.
One day she was standing next to a very good male friend in the hallway and he was boasting about the girl friends he had. He began to show Misty one picture after another, flipping through them. Misty was attracted to him and was truly unimpressed with most of the girls except one that he flipped through really quickly.
Misty immediately asked him to halt and flip back to the girl that clearly stood out among the others because she knew she could never compete against that incredibly beautiful girl that looked like a princess. Strange the girl looked oddly familiar but she couldn’t place her. The girl had a very soft beautiful face with penetrating eyes and round lips.
Did she go to her high school or the one across town?
Now he was puzzled and flipped back to the picture she requested.
Once seen, Misty’s mouth dropped wide open in shock.
Oh no she thought. This can’t be.
Yes indeed she had seen the girl before. Filtered. This time she had seen her unfiltered by her sub-conscious. Yes the girl in the picture had indeed went to her high school and still did.
Who was the girl in the picture? We think you already know.
It was Misty.
That moment changed her life and she never looked back.
Wouldn’t it be wonderful in life if we could see ourselves the way others truly see us without putting ourselves down first?
Gorgeous Olivia Campbell
As a writer whose mother, now deceased, was a beautiful shapely woman with very soft full thighs and beautiful round hips, I was not only attracted to shapely girls but was obsessed with them, so in our goal at Femcompetitor Magazine to build bridges with the curvy model community, you can imagine our delight when we came across the emotionally riveting and penetrating website entitled stylelikeu.com.
Let’s please allow them to introduce themselves to you.
“Six years ago we created StyleLikeU as alternative to this unconscious self-hate. Home to a series of radically honest docu-style video portraits that redefine our culture’s notion of beauty, each piece of our content is driving public engagement around the reversal of the fashion and beauty industry’s crippling status quo.
By featuring the diverse stories of unapologetic individuals who are true to themselves and comfortable in their skin, you will be empowered to discover that same sense of freedom and comfort in your own skin.”
What you will find when you visit the site are many attractive people sharing their life experiences with you about a myriad of very personal subject matter.
Elegant Elly Mayday
I felt many things in reviewing the video portraits and I would say moved, overwhelmed and internally impacted were some of the initial emotions.
What I sensed for the very first time in writing the myriads of stories that I have published for Femcompetitor was a strong desire to share my own story about how beautiful I have always thought that shapely women were ever since junior high school.
One of the stories I will share is about how as an adult going for walks during my afternoon lunch, that time and time again, I would be deep in thought about life’s issues and be jolted because an extremely sexy shapely woman would walk past me.
I would wait for her to pace further down the street and then I would follow her at a distance, fantasizing about what it would be like to make love to her.
I have to follow her
I’ve lost count about how many times that this happened.
Part of the reason as a male that I rarely speak to my contemporaries about the subject is because so many will describe it as a fetish.
Why in the world is finding shapely women erotic a fetish?
That’s the power that the Style Like U website has. Like its guests, it truly compels you to want to speak and shout out loud about what you want to say and how you feel about the subject involved.
When many of the women interviewed were moved to tears, especially regarding body shaming and teen bullying, I wanted to reach through the screen and scream; that’s not how we feel about you at all.
My feelings are supported in a February 25, 2012 Psychology Today article by Will Laseek M.D. entitled, Do Men Find Very Skinny Women Attractive?
Among other things he states, “Unfortunately, many women seem to believe that men find super-skinny women like fashion models especially attractive.
In study after study, women consistently underestimate the amount of body fat that men prefer.
When asked to predict the figure that men will find most attractive, women consistently choose a skinnier figure than the men actually prefer. The figures women think men prefer are more like fashion models than Playmates.
The figures that the men actually prefer are also much closer to the women’s own figures than the skinnier ones women believe that men like. This misreading of men’s desires may encourage some women to mistakenly think they would be more attractive to men if they weighed less.”
The founders of Style Like U are Elisa and Lily, a mother-daughter team bound together by their passion to spread self-acceptance through style.
They are doing an exceptional job as they possess a very impressive and creative fashion section as well.
For our initial purposes, the Docu-Portraits are our first road map into this expansive site.
This is our introduction.
We hope to take our time and write many articles that enter into the alluring mind of this unique and fresh website.
“If women today would rise en masse and demand their emancipation, the men would be compelled to grant it.”….. Victoria Woodhull
Femcompetitor Magazine has written numerous articles regarding the shapely model industry, but this is a first where one article cannot do a site justice.
Truthfully, it’s like driving around the San Francisco Bay Area and then trying to explain to someone who has never visited, what the entire state of California is like.
In terms of imaging, time and time again we feel the pain of the models we have written about but can’t help but wonder, how much of that initial image loathing is self-induced?
How can you really know what others are thinking about you if they don’t express themselves?
Listening to their stories reminded me of my college days when I participated in a powerful group therapy class. It was the type of private experience where a group of us were compelled to become completely vulnerable and allow the others in the room to see ourselves emotionally stripped bare.
While virtually all other classes have long been forgotten, that one I think of at least once a day.
If I could invite the leadership at Style For U to try an experiment it would go something like this.
Have a group therapy session where you invite five shapely models and five thinner cheerleader type models to sit in the room and discuss many things except body image.
They would also invite only one handsome, tall, nicely toned, intelligent athletic male to serve in semi-authoritative role as a note taker and facilitator.
We will name him Kyle.
In his role he is to be very polite and nice to everyone but never flirt with anyone.
After several classes are over, a piece of paper would be given to the shapely women only with many questions on the sheet where the most important question is blended in.
The most important question would be; which woman in the room do you think Kyle was most sexually attracted to?
This writer would bet the house that to a woman they would pick one of the cheerleaders when, if Kyle is like me, nothing would be further from the truth.
This is not to say that the models concerns are not valid.
They are, and we respect every one of their stories as is.
However, we would like to encourage anyone who has suffered through body shaming that there are an army of people, mostly unknown, that love you as you are.
They just don’t voice it.
Style For U truly compels you to think, analyze, reflect, challenge and share.
You cannot go through this innovative website in one setting.
As we move into the future traveling a common pathway with Style Like U, though only a guest, we wonder if like our very real initial story regarding Misty’s teenage experience, when we look into the mirror, in terms of self-image, how much is our picture defined by how we see ourselves as opposed to the reality of how others see us?
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Sources: brainyquote.com, Wikipedia, fciwomenswrestling2.com, FCI Elite Competitor, photos thank you Wikimedia Commons.